When was your last vacation?
Think hard. When was the last time you turned off your phone for more than three hours, left your laptop at work or put your briefcase in a closet for a week?
If the answer starts with the word “Nineteen,” then read on: “In Praise of Wasting Time” by Alan Lightman is needed, pronto.
Tucked in a far-away corner of Cambodia, the people of the village of Tramung Chrum live with no running water or electricity, no television, internet or technology.
Alan Lightman visited there recently and, when he discovered that village women ride their bikes every morning to a village 10 miles away, he asked how long the ride took. One woman was baffled, saying that it hadn’t occurred to her to even notice.
Her answer made Lightman think about his childhood, aimless treks through wooded areas near his home and “careless, wasteful hours” spent at a nearby pond, unencumbered by the “weight of life.”
FEAR OF MISSING OUT
Kids today don’t have that kind of leisure. Neither do adults, much to our collective detriment because, as psychologists know, we need “downtime” to regenerate and create.
And yet – oh, the guilt, when we disconnect!
It even has a name: “FOMO,” or the “Fear of Missing Out.”
It affects most smartphone-owning adults and it shortens our attention spans. Often, teens “find it nearly impossible to be alone” because of that 24/7 connection they’ve always had.
Part of the solution, Lightman says, is to use “something called ‘divergent thinking’ – the ability to explore … a problem in a spontaneous and nonorderly manner” – that mind-wandering, let-your-subconscious-chew-on-it thinking that “lollygags.”
It’s that kind of problem-solving that works best when you’re thinking about something else.
Then, he says, let yourself get stuck; in fact, “we should welcome” it. Take a chance to mind-wander, to mosey along memories without a plan.
See how long you can sit in a room, alone, without checking your email. And learn to embrace downtime: it’s the best way “to nourish the self” and gain “necessary inner stability.”
NO DRAMA, YET COMPELLING
Right about now, you may be squirming. To read “don’t work” in a business book seems like madness, but hold up: “In Praise of Wasting Time” could have the work advice you need.
In the same unhurried, frittering way that his memories fall, Lightman gives readers ample reason to take that vacation, to put away cellies and seize the weekend.
This is an urgent call to action that feels like a lazy summer day: Lightman seems in no hurry to offer stories to boost his TED talk, making readers lean in to the ideas which he espouses.
The whole narrative itself is relaxing, and the research he uses hammers home the point with a velvet-peened tool: there’s no drama or demand to this book, but it’s compelling nonetheless.
WATCH THE WORLD GO BY
So, turn off your phone next weekend, for heaven’s sake.
Sit outside and watch the world go by.
Or get other ideas from this book, because reading “In Praise of Wasting Time” is no waste at all.
Terri Schlichenmeyer of Wisconsin writes reviews of business books. Reading since she was 3, she owns 15,000 books and can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.